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This just in: dating is hard. Scratch that. Dating used to be hard; back when boy met girl and girl agreed to go steady. Yes, plain old going steady was still hard, without the help of technology, when it was still called going steady. So, what are modern day guys and gals to do when the tweeting, texting, facebooking, online-dating world of present-day love has tired them out and let them down? Well, best friends Timothy Goodman and Jessica Walsh decided to date each other.
Luckily for all of us, the duo documented the experiment every step of the way. By now, you have probably heard of 40 Days of Dating. The dating life of Tim and Jessica is consuming the happy hour conversations of both committed and single men and women all over the nation.
If you have somehow escaped being sucked in to the latest internet craze, allow me bring you into the vortex with the rest of us. Tim and Jessica, best friends living in New York City, found themselves single at the same time after seeing one another through years of crazy relationships and endless dating.
Owning up to their faults and realizing their vastly different outlooks on love, the long-time friends made the decision to pair up and explore their fears and inadequacies. Since it has been said it takes forty days to break a bad habit, Goodman and Walsh vowed to go through the motions of a real relationship for that exact amount of time in hopes of overcoming their dating downfalls. Thus, 40 Days of Dating was born and the millennial generation rejoiced.
The allotted forty days has come and gone for the friends turned couple and now the whole world gets to read about their trial period one day at a time. The rules their followers are eagerly observing them abide by seemed simple at the onset- see each other every day for forty days, go on at least three dates per week, see a couples therapist once a week, go on one weekend trip together, fill out the daily questionnaire and document everything and, lastly, not see, date, hookup or have sex with anyone else.
On second thought, how simple would it actually prove to be? Would their dating ruin their friendship? What if they hooked up? Would it be awkward after? Would they end up together? All questions they asked themselves when they dove in head first; all things we are learning one day at a time.
I will openly say I am obsessed with Tim and Jessica. Not only is their genius social experiment like a real-life dating show that puts reality television to shame, the general ideas of how our generation deals with dating and dating dysmorphia are completely relevant and interesting.
The idea that we could, or may have the need to, date a friend to learn about ourselves and save one another from our own vicious cycles shows how complicated love has become; perhaps, it shows how complicated we have insisted on making it. Thus far, those obsessing over 40 Days of Dating have seen Tim and Jessica waver back and forth between friends and something more.
It is also apparent that a friendship first scenario increases appreciation for good qualities, while slightly heightening disappointment during the discovery of the negative. We have seen modern day dating redefined. First comes friendship, then comes dating has proven to be an adventure that is emotionally connecting not just two people, but thousands. As entertaining as this project is and it is, I promise you…seriously, go read it and then talk to me about it we sort of have to wonder why so many of us are enthralled with the concept and resulting daily updates.
I have to believe it is the genuine humanity and humility of it all. Like I said in the beginning, dating is hard. I mean, it is because we do; we often trivialize the hardships and pressures of dating in order to save face or avoid coming to terms with reality, but it is also the type of hard that is sometimes exhausting and really disappointing.
In my opinion, Tim and Jessica allow us to feel that all of our dating emotions are valid, while entertaining us along the way. At the end of the day, Tim and Jessica are quickly becoming the dating voice of our generation and we are certainly all ears. Expect to laugh out loud at their fun-loving, quirky and appropriately serious recaps.
I encourage obsession of this project with one warning: force the light reading on a friend because you will have an undeniable need to gush about the daily dish. Then again, I am already all in, so if you need a friend, you know where to find one. Feature Image via Cool Hunting.
Katie Patton Updated Aug 08, am. FB Tweet More. All rights reserved. Close this dialog window View image.Friends first and then see where it goes
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She said “ let’s be friends first and see where that goes.” what!?